Victoria’s new online programs are out!
1.Procrastination – 7 Hacks to beat it!
How to Break the Cycle of Procrastination
7 Lectures, 1 hour, Life time access! $25 Get it for $19 for a short time… Discount code here
How to break the curse of Procrastination! Stop the habit!
Yes it is a habit. It is not bad luck, it is not poor planning. It is a habit!
We will help you discover and understand the process and key skills to help you break the cycle of procrastination!
2. Relationships and Dating in the Modern World
Wondering how to spot relationship red flags?
3. Healthy Boundaries:The Key to Healthy Relationships
Healthy Boundaries: The Key to Healthy Relationships
Understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries
Learn the good boundary communication
Heal the “Cycle of Self-Denial”
Healthy Friendships Are Built Upon Healthy Expectations
I talk about my 4 top tips for a passionate long-term relationships!
Lots of fun… a bit provocative too!
We talk Red Flags in Relationships, Narcissism, Boundaries and more!
Fighting Fairly and
“This book would have made my journey shorter and easier.It will guide you through your family matrix, into dating in the modern world, how to spot relationship dysfunction from the start and finally lead you into healthy relationships and enduring marriages.”
Welcome to my world where limitless possibilities can be reached! My name is Victoria Lorient-Faibish. I am a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. I am also a Relationship Expert. I hold a Masters degree in Educational Psychology (MEd) and I am a Certified Member of the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCC) as well as a member of the Ontario and American Polarity Therapy Associations (BCPP Board Certified Polarity Practitioner). I have been in practice since 1990 and in addition to my traditional psychotherapy training I have over 8 years of training in eastern philosophy body-centred modalities including Polarity Therapy, Reiki, New Decision Therapy and Craniosacral. I offer an East meets West, holistic approach to psychotherapy, that I call Holistic Psychotherapy, in which a foundational process is provided as the framework for profound self awareness and transformation.
What gets me up in the morning is knowing that the work I do in the office and the material I write can help people to stop perpetuating the cycles of dysfunction on to the next generations.
I work with traditional talk therapy either individually or with couples. And I also I include life coaching, visualization and somatic focusing. I sometimes integrate the body centred (somatic) work, visualization, breathing exercises to assist in the integration of the new information gained by the client and to maintain groundedness as the emotional unfolding occurs.
I have also written two books that encapsulate the work I do in the office. The 1st one is called Find Your Self-Culture:Moving From Depression and Anxiety to Monumental Self-Acceptance (Massenergy Press) and takes the reader on a journey to finding the real self, despite the pressures of “Family-culture”, patterns and habits. I believe that often depression and anxiety are vastly helped by a person allowing themselves to hear their authentic voice… their “Self-Culture” as the loudest voice in their head. This book is filled with easy techniques as well as vivid case studies to facilitate in the integration of the material.
My second book is about relationships and the patterns therein. It is called Connecting:Rewire Your Relationship-Culture (Manor House Publishing) Left analyzed, we are doomed to repeat what we have observed in our family of origin and if what we saw was dysfunctional, then we will perpetuate these cycles on to our adult relationships into oblivion. This book helps the reader shine a light on the patterns that affect their “Relationship-Culture” and I use brain science to teach people how to rewire their long held beliefs and patterns so that they can impact their relationships positively. I speak deeply about dating in the modern worlds, my pre marital check list, long term passionat marriage fundamentals as well codependency, boundaries and so much more!
Primarily people come to my office because they are very ready to change that which is no longer working for them either in terms of their relationship to self or others. I hold this space and intention in a very focused way. We work with family of origin issues (“Family-Culture”), overcoming trauma and abuse, narcissistic partners and families, commitment phobia, unresolved patterns of behaviour, grief & loss, depression, codependency, anxiety, addictions, marital strife, parenting, mother, father, & sibling issues, life purpose issues, workplace disharmony, repetition/compulsion distress, poor self esteem, conflict resolution, trauma, eating disorders and anything else that is compromising a person from fully living in joy, ease, well being, health and happiness. This work is wonderfully effective for those who are dealing with chronic emotional lack of ease.
Together we work to facilitate you finding your authentic inner voice; your “Self-Culture”. The process brings about profound awareness as well as practical tools to rewire the neural pathways associated with long held beliefs that you learned form your “Family-Culture”. With this information you will ultimately be able to rewire your patterns that have made up your “Relationship-Culture” so that you can live a free, empowered, healthy, functional and passion filled life.
I provide brief and long-term Transformational Holistic Psychotherapy including traditional talk therapy, visualization, space to deeply process and investigate, as well as motivation and Inspiration, Life Coaching, Parts Integration Therapy, Stress-Reduction, New Decision Therapy™, Couples Therapy, Polarity Therapy, Craniosacral, Reiki, and Trauma Therapy.
When I work with couples we look at the patterns of behaviour that lead to the state of the relationship. I teach couples how to fight in a fair, functional and constructive way. Together, as a team we work to decode Family-Culture influences and improve communication problems as well as teaching resiliency to family of origin triggers and hurt-child behaviour. We look at commitment phobia, narcissism, depression, home routine problems, addictions, unfair fighting patterns, shaming patterns of communication, division of task unfairness, resentment, stonewalling, silent treatment patterns, infidelity, trust issues, anxiety, parent/child dynamics, parental alienation and more. All this so that the couple can move past the dysfunction and into a long-term passionate, healthy, empowered relationship.
I also love to work with couples that are very serious about marriage and wish to work preventatively with my Pre- Marital Checklist sessions. In these sessions, we work as a team to understand some of the areas that might become triggers during the marriage. We talk about hot button topics like money, sex, family influences, children and communication glitches and patterns.
Clients find these sessions incredibly impactful and transformational and say that this sets them up for a healthy marriage in the long term.
Techniques used include:
Traditional talk therapy: Working with the past traumas and patterns so that they not longer negatively impact the present and the future. Giving space for the client to explore and express feelings, own awareness’s, observe and understand realizations, transform thoughts, grieve and mourn, vent, and get in touch with life’s lessons and opportunities for completion and integration.
EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique is a tapping tool that utilized the meridians in the body and affirmations to unblock emotions, reduce cravings and habits, eliminate pain and achieve goals.
Life Coaching: Working with the present in order to impact the future positively. Getting clear, goal setting, correcting erroneous belief patterns, day to day goal managing.
Somatic focusing: Accessing the deep subconscious and unconscious realms and patterns through dialoguing deeply with the body, the mind and spirit. This is a powerful tool for deep self awareness and self contemplation.
Breathing exercises: Learning how to slow down the breathe to be able to tap into the innate calm self.
Mantras: Sanskrit words and prayers that shift our vibration through repetition and focus. I teach mantras for removing obstacles, prosperity, protection and relaxation. Clients find this very helpful as a way to focus the mind in between sessions.
Visualizing: Using the imagination to self-regulate and self-heal through imagery, journeying and storytelling
Unwinding trauma through relaxation: Activating the parasympathetic nervous system i.e. the relaxation response through various means including Polarity Therapy, Cranio-Sacral, Reiki, movement, stretching, breath work and more.
Affirmations: Utilizing language awareness and word repetition to transform thoughts, attitudes, neural pathways and vibration. #SampleAffirmation: I am loved, I am lovable, I am loving
New Decision Therapy: (see page)
These techniques are used to facilitate self awareness which is essential for change and transformation. A consistent movement toward becoming a whole and integrated person and a healthy couple/family is the eventual outcome.