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Category Archives: Boundaries Work
Question re: fear of confrontation
Question Hi Ms. Lorient-Faibish I’m trying to overcome a fear I have with confrontation. When someone does or says something offensive to me, I have trouble voicing my feels to the person, because I usually fear the outcome. I worry about hurting the other person’s feelings, if the person is close to me, or I…
Are You Overly Involved In Your Adult Child’s Life?
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. Parents of adult children so often have a hard time letting go. Their expectations are dashed and they feel that they need to get in there and either save their adult kid or control the choices they make. The reality is that all this worry and control is making…
Being Your Parent’s Parent: Stop Now!
A reader wrote a letter to me asking how she could stop being so affected by her mother who is depressed, critical and manipulative. I would like to share with you my thoughts through showing you the letter and also my advice to overcome this pattern of constant approval-seeking from someone who is not at…
Straddling Two Worlds: Establishing Your Own “Self Culture”
In Canada’s multi cultural landscape, the question “Where are you from?” is a common one as we Canadians are fortunate to have embedded in our very matrix the ability to maintain our country of origin’s culture while also meshing with the Canadiana flavours. We are not the melting pot like our neighbours to the south…
Boundaries: Selfhood Saviour!
When does being generous of spirit become being a doormat? When does being a “can do” person become a problem? These are questions that many contend with as they learn about the concept of having and setting healthy boundaries. By definition a boundary is the emotional and physical space that we place between ourselves and…
Boundaries: Healthy and Unhealthy
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. Ask Victoria: Get a note pad because this one is chock a block full of info!! So many have no idea as to what kind of boundaries they are using. This longer video has many examples… So sit back and take notes.. Tags: boundaries relationships empowerment friendships marriage self…
Boundaries are essential for healthy relationship
Transcribed from my youtube video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria Healthy relationship needs boundaries in order to survive. Say yes only when you truly mean it. Fill your own cup first and then give to others only when there is an overflow. Without this there is a break down that cannot be mended. Today’s topic is boundaries. They…