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Category Archives: Empowerment: Moving Beyond the Childhood
Commitment Phobia: The Source and The Way Out
Commitment phobia is a very painful experience both for the one who engages in the pattern and for those who are involved with that person. Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns.
Changing: Healing The Hurt Child
What is change? How do we achieve this illusive concept? How do we master going beyond what we have been taught to do repeatedly either because we saw it or because it was drilled in to us ad nausium? The thing I ask when a client enters my office is “What is not working for…
Moving Beyond Your Parental Anger
I notice that so many suffer for so long with unresolved anger toward parents that they wish had been different. There is almost a refusal to step into their adulthood fully for fear that that would mean that they did not suffer and that they were condoning what had happened at the hands of their…
Compensating Childhood Behaviours: They May Not Be Needed Anymore!
Carrying an old role or behaviour from your family dynamic into your adulthood may be blocking you from living in your authentic self and in joyfulness. This can stunt growth and overall ease of living. The behaviour may have been useful to you in order to survive your childhood but today it prevents you from…
The Hurt Child Played Out in The Adult Life
published in Vitality Magazine - April 2007 and in the International Energy Currents Fall Issue Whenever we’re having difficulty in adult relationships it’s often because we’re approaching it from that of the hurt child perspective. The hurt child is always looking to be loved and approved of and is hypersensitive to criticism. The hurt child…
Thriving Even Though You Have Suffered Trauma and Abuse
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. A viewer wrote in about how he longed to return to his old self. Today he is in a good marriage but for years he was abused. He is unable to move on and asks how to do so. I give some concrete tools to move beyond the traumas…
Narcissistic Parent: Collateral Damage
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. Being the child of a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder or is simply a narcissist is extremely challenging. The person grows up deferring to the parent as the main person in the room always. They are not at all allowed to feel or have problems. They are consistently…