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Category Archives: Healthy Relationships and Friendships
Question re: soul mates
Dear Victoria, I recently met someone who is becoming a very important part of my life. I’ve never had such a strong connection with anyone before. I know I’m not in love but I do care about him a lot. I’m scared because I’ve never experienced this before. It’s been only two months and our…
Question re: estranged father
Hi Victoria, I recently reunited with my half brothers and sisters. I haven’t seen them in over 10 years. I was really happy to see them because we were really close growing up, but were separated when my father moved out of the country. I haven’t spoken to him for almost 7 years, and seeing…
The Codependent Life and Relationship
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. The over enmeshed relationship is often glorified in the media however it comes from a very unhealthy place. The over apologizing, low self esteem codependent finds themselves in unhealthy relationships for too long but unable to free themselves due to being extremely unfamiliar with who they really are. Profound…
Mastering The Art of Healthy Friendships
What draws us toward friends is usually a mystical chemistry that is brought on by mutual likes and dislikes, history, commonality of energy, and a dash of simpatico dust for good measure. There is usually a wonderfully long honeymoon period among friends that lasts until the first conflict at which point the navigation process begins…
Navigating the Labyrinth of a New Relationship
published in Tonic Magazine, October 2009 Picture this: You have met a new person recently and you are instantly “in love”. You want to spend all day and night with them. It feels as if you are drugged with this new person’s energy and you cannot get enough. You need your daily fix and will…
Why Are My Friends Always Letting Me Down?
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. July 31, 2007 – 4:14 A viewer wrote in asking about why his friends were always letting him down. Inappropriate expectations are usually the downfall of relationships. It is important to place friends in the right category. I got an email from a viewer, and he posed the question,…
Should I leave her if she loves him more?
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. A viewer asks whether or not he should stay in a relationship in which his girlfriend has admitted she loves someone else more. His self esteem and the lack thereof is the real issue. Today I’m answering a viewer question from ferryman36. You ask whether you should stay with…
Demanding Too Much Too Soon!
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. So often in relationships it seems that women tend to give over their power, their space and their dignity as soon as they are with a man. Patterns of wanting too much too soon ensues and the relationship crumbles. I talk about how to overcome this. Does this sound…
Intercultural Marriage… Help!
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. Sarah has written in about her intercultural marriage and the immense meddling of her in laws. The couple has not established good boundaries and have left themselves very open to having their life choices being overrun by his parents who are of a different culture than Sarah. Mainly, the…
We Teach People How to Treat Us
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. At every turn in a relationship we are teaching people what is acceptable or not in our dealings with them. Being very aware of what you are allowing in your dynamics with friends, partners, family, bosses and coworkers is extremely important. Today’s topic is: we teach people how to…