Victoria’s radio interviews:
Parental Alienation: Devastating Consequences!
Transcribed from my video at youtube.com/askvictoria.
N writes in about his “Malicious Mother” who alienated him from his father for 25 years. He is now in the process of reconnecting with this part of his family that he was deprived of. His mother now has amputated him, heartlessly! This tactic to seek revenge on the other parent is so toxic and so manipulative and has devastating far reaching consequences. It is not to be used unless there is physical proof of abuse. In this case there was no abuse and so the blow was all the more horrifying for N.
Borderline Personality: Boundaries and Stop Enabling!
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria. L is engaged to a man who has a previous family. He does not set boundaries and he is passive when it comes to dealing with his hurricane borderline personality adult daughter. She is in danger of completely being a door mat with this new family. Self analysis is…
Commitment Phobia: The Source and The Way Out
Commitment phobia is a very painful experience both for the one who engages in the pattern and for those who are involved with that person. Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns.
Question re: fear of confrontation
Question Hi Ms. Lorient-Faibish I’m trying to overcome a fear I have with confrontation. When someone does or says something offensive to me, I have trouble voicing my feels to the person, because I usually fear the outcome. I worry about hurting the other person’s feelings, if the person is close to me, or I…
Question re: soul mates
Dear Victoria, I recently met someone who is becoming a very important part of my life. I’ve never had such a strong connection with anyone before. I know I’m not in love but I do care about him a lot. I’m scared because I’ve never experienced this before. It’s been only two months and our…
Question re: estranged father
Hi Victoria, I recently reunited with my half brothers and sisters. I haven’t seen them in over 10 years. I was really happy to see them because we were really close growing up, but were separated when my father moved out of the country. I haven’t spoken to him for almost 7 years, and seeing…
Question re: Self love
First I want to say that I enjoy reading your articles. They’re very enlightening, and I’m learning so much from them. I wanted to ask you about self-love. My grandmama is always telling me that I need to learn to love myself first before I can learn to love another person. I was always being…
Mental Illness: Healing The Stigma
Transcribed from my video at www.youtube.com/askvictoria . With mental illness, the pain of feeling mocked, gossiped about or ashamed is so difficult and isolating. They feel often they need to hide or lie in order to mitigate the feelings of being ostracized. The reality is that there is still a stigma attached to mental illness…
Changing: Healing The Hurt Child
What is change? How do we achieve this illusive concept? How do we master going beyond what we have been taught to do repeatedly either because we saw it or because it was drilled in to us ad nausium? The thing I ask when a client enters my office is “What is not working for…
Question re: Moving on From Grief
Dear Victoria My grandmother passed away last summer, and I’m still having trouble coping with her death. What made it extremely hard for me, is that I heard the news from complete strangers who randomly showed up at my front door a few days after she died. I had not seen her in months, and…