So honoured that the incomparable Dini Petty wrote the forward to the book!
“This book would have made my journey shorter and easier. It will guide you through your family matrix, into dating in the modern world, how to spot relationship dysfunction from the start and finally lead you into healthy relationships and enduring marriages………if you wish to transform your life and your relationships, the path lies within these pages.” Says Dini Petty about this book!
You are doomed to repeat old family patterns and foist them onto the next generation unconsciously if you do nothing about the dysfunction carried with you from your family-culture. Left unanalyzed, your patterns will repeat and they will do damage. How your emotions play out in your relationships, how you behave in your relationships and how your relationships evolve are all a part of your relationship-culture.
Rewiring your relationship-culture involves understanding that your brain is an elegant machine that forms new neural pathways every time you develop a new way of doing something especially if you practice the new behavior often. It’s nature’s way of supporting us when we try to make good changes for ourselves.
By rewiring your relationship-culture you will be able to:
- Move past multi-generational dysfunction
- Know and honour yourself fully
- Understand the rules for dating in a healthy and empowering way
- Spot relationship dysfunction from the start such as Codependency, Narcissism and Commitment Phobia
- Set good boundaries for yourself
- Understand the keys to healthy relationships with my pre-marital check list
- Know the Fundamentals for Long-Term, Passionate Relationships!
This book is about becoming aware of what is not working with regard to what you inherited from your family-culture so that you can create a new, fully unique, personalized, choice-filled, healthy, mindful relationship-culture that you completely and consciously, bring into your adult relationships!
What Is “Relationship-Culture”?
Our relationship-culture lurks in every single one of us! If you do not analyze and process the family-culture in which you grew up, you are doomed to repeat old patterns. The very matrix of how you react to your dates, relationships, partners or spouses is embedded in your neural pathways, your reactions, your patterns and your ways of being. You have no choice but to play that matrix out in your life if you do nothing about it. Left unanalyzed, your patterns will repeat. Your relationship-culture is your external expression of your family-culture. How your emotions play out in your relationships, how you behave in your relationships and how your relationships evolve are all a part of your relationship-culture. The key is to know exactly what your relationship-culture is—the collection of repetitive patterns that may or may not be dysfunctional. Awareness is the key. Yet awareness alone can do nothing. More needs to happen for change to occur if change is needed. If the patterns that you inherited from your family-culture are dysfunctional and negatively impact your relationship-culture, then real change needs to happen lest you perpetuate the cycle of dysfunction in yourself and for generations to come. In this book, I discuss many ways for a person to do something concrete to effect change in response to any awareness that may arise. To effect real change and to create a new normal, a “rewiring” of the neural pathways associated with the relationship-culture needs to evolve. To be clear, this is not about throwing everything away that you learned from your family-culture. Please keep whatever is working and is functional and healthy. This book is about becoming aware of what is not working with regard to what you inherited from your family-culture so that you can create a new, fully unique, personalized, choice-filled, healthy, mindful relationship-culture that you now, completely and consciously, bring into your adult relationships.